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| Parent Check: Are You Being Delusional About Your Child’s College Admissions? You love your kid. You believe in them. You want the best for them. But when it comes to college admissions? Some parents need a serious reality check on all fronts. It happens every cycle. A student with a 3.7 GPA and no major awards declares they’re “aiming for Stanford, MIT, or Harvard.” A parent insists that their child “has leadership” because they once ran a fundraiser in 10th grade. Or someone says, “We don’t want to waste time applying to safeties. We’re only interested in top-20 schools.” On the flip side, there are the students who are projected valedictorians or salutatorians, heads of their debate team and expert researchers whose parents are so afraid of how their students will fare in the face of rejection that they discourage them from applying to top schools. We call both of these approaches delusional. Why? Because college admissions is not about how great your child is. It’s about how unusual their accomplishments are, and how poised they are to both contribute to, and benefit from, the programs at each specific college; it’s about how good of a fit they are for each school as both individuals and members of a greater community. Want to Help Your Child? Start Here. It’s time to flip the script — from ego-driven to outcome-driven, from wishful thinking to intelligent planning. Here’s how. Parent Reality Check: Are You Helping or Hurting? Ask yourself these 5 questions: 1. Is our school list based on data or vibes? 2. Have we built a balanced school list (reaches, targets, safeties)? 3. Do I understand what actually impresses admissions officers? 4. Are we applying to schools that fit our child? 5. Am I open to expert feedback, or being defensive when challenged? From Delusion to Strategy: What Smart Parents Do They encourage self-awareness. “What do you love? What makes you feel energized? In what environments do you thrive?” They prioritize long-term fit, not short-term prestige. “Where will you be supported, stretched, and seen?” They use expert guidance to build the school list, refine the personal narrative, and plan each step with intention. They anchor the process in their child’s strengths, not someone else’s highlight reel. To learn more on how to be your child’s advocate and to best support them throughout their college admissions journey, read our blog here! × |
